So how are the best ways to deal with tragedy? There are the obvious solutions: hide the soul-gutting affects of it behind metaphorical flags and banners that promise there is nothing wrong. Tell our loved ones that we’re fine even when we’re not. Medicate, drink, medicate some more. We could even shop. Retail therapy is definitely not something to stick one’s nose up at. But let’s face it, these aren’t long-term solutions. As stated, the answer is not a figment somewhere that the eye can’t trace it; it’s closer than we think. All it takes is a little empathy, self-evaluation, thinking, and progression.
Solutions to be found in others
Support groups are a great way to cope with tragedy. Talking is the most basic form of human communication and can be cathartic, in spite of the fear that in talking about a tragic event, one must relive it. Let’s take an example:
Jane finds herself waking up in the middle of the night from nightmares. Every night she relives the moment that her husband Louis’ face hit the windshield as their vehicle came into a headlong collision with the Sign Company’s truck. She sees the same image over and over, the banner wrapped vehicle coming clear through the rain, the address for Las Vegas, Nevada. The trauma of it has her not only stuck inside her own head but losing sleep. She fears that, by talking to anyone, let alone a whole group of people, she’ll only be forced to see the same image more and more until it haunts her every waking second. Not so. The moment of sharing, of finding someone else who shares Jane’s horrifying fears, night sweats, and her terror of driving makes Jane realize she is not alone!
Can the answer be found in spiritualism?
Yes! You don’t have to be religious to know that your body is not the end of who and what you are. Your mind needs as much healing as your body does. A broken bone heals, but a broken heart can hurt forever. Jane, from our previous example, should have taken her nightmares as a sign of a spirit in need of some serious healing. Meditation and reflection, while always helpful, can be a little hard to achieve without training or at least a little guidance. Why not see if the answers can be found in the printed word? Books that offer guidance and support literally flood the shelves of most bookstores and can certainly be helpful as a starting point if you are asking yourself: where do we go from here?
Are the solutions permanent?
Sadly, no. Trauma is a lifelong scar that people who have experienced a tragedy carry on their hearts. It may heal, but the memories of it never really will. As we said; it’ll fade, and some new good things can come from it with a little self-care and constant reminder that there is nowhere to go but up.
This video should help: